Everyone likes to win, and conversely, no one likes to lose. Yet we will all lose at some point in our lives. We also know that people can be very critical of others. Criticism hurts. That’s why it is important to begin teaching your child how to respond to these situations now.
When children learn to handle these external negative experiences, they will have less frustration and anxiety. And they will develop self-confidence, self-esteem, and will gain the respect of their peers.
As parents, we continually praise our children for their successes, but what do we teach them about failure? Children may take failure in tasks as meaning failure as a person. They may fear disappointing you or their teacher. It is important that we support our children when they make mistakes or fail, letting them know that it doesn’t change our view of them. We can also model a healthy way of handling failure in our own lives. Let your child see your mistakes and show him an attitude that says you will try again.
It is also equally important to recognize how much your child is affected by mistakes and failure. Does she obsess over getting things right, often redoing tasks that weren’t good enough? A desire for perfection can lead to anxiety and fear. Let your child know that it’s okay to do some things “less than perfect”. Help him see that you appreciate her effort to do the task well.
Finally, if you see that your child is developing more anxiety over mistakes and failure, to the point that it is affecting his willingness to attempt tasks, preventing sleep, or manifesting in physical symptoms such as stomach pains or headaches, please consult his pediatrician. Anxiety in children is real and can be debilitating in some cases.
Helping your child develop a rich vocabulary is a powerful way to improve reading comprehension, writing skills, and communication skills. We know that children who participate in conversations at home are better able to glean meaning from oral communication in the classroom. Having access to a wide vocabulary gives children the ability to express thoughts and ideas in writing. So, how do you build your child’s vocabulary? Here are a few ideas to get you started.
The school year is finally coming to an end! What will your children do during the summer now that most camps and classes have been cancelled. Start now talking with your children about what they would like to do during the summer break. When asking them, do not use the word “learn”. They have been “learning” for months. Instead, ask what they would like to experience, discover, be able to do, or get better at. Give them time to come up with ideas and be willing to assist them. Try to get them to select things that can’t be done in one or two days. Have some ideas ready to get their minds going. Here are a few of mine, but the sky’s the limit:
There are several articles from the National Association of School Psychologists (NASP) uploaded in Files. I will also post links to sites that you may find helpful in addressing needs during this time. Here is the first site: